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Goat Dressing at the Gay Rodeo

August 28th, 2024 by Sallie Bingham in New Mexico 1 Comment

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Photo of Miss IGRA (Int’l Gay Rodeo Assn) 2024 by Health Tanner, Zia Regional Rodeo 2024—Santa Fe, NM

It almost seems, at least here in Santa Fe, that the presence and participation of gay people in public events have been folded into the omnipresent family culture; at least that was my impression Sunday at the gay rodeo.  The stands were full of women and children. The word “gay” was only mentioned once on one of the many flags and banners, so that someone wandering in and watching the riders might have assumed that all the worn western boots and cowboy hats marked just the usual crowd of men and women riders.

There were three days of bull riding, steer riding, roping on foot and on horseback, Barrel Racing, Pole Bending—and finally, Goat Dressing.

This odd event was created especially for gay rodeos. The two-person team stands fifty feet from each goat, tethered to a rope attached to a concrete block weighed down by a sitting woman. Each team at a signal runs to its goat, grabs it and pulls a pair of white underpants over its back legs and up its butt. Some of the nannies (no Billies here, for obvious reasons) just stood baffled, but others kicked vigorously, making it tough to get the underwear on. When it was more or less on, the team ran back to the starting line, and each team was timed. The winners managed the feat in 21 seconds.

Now it was the turn of the underwear man (I’m sure he goes by another name) to collect all the pants off the goats.

It almost seems, at least here in Santa Fe, that the presence and participation of gay people in public events have been folded into the omnipresent family culture...

When that was done, four brawny men armed with underwear descended on the two women sitting on the concrete blocks, tackled them and pulled the underwear up over their boots and pants.

Well…

The brightly colored program was full of information, such as a line of old-time cowboys in front of a sign reading, “Get your HIV status faster than you can say Giddy Up?” and “Are you eighteen or younger and in search of an LGBTO family?” and “Gay, Bi, Trans or Questioning?”

The progress we’ve made in these areas is astonishing, although of course there are always holdouts such as the two cowboys sitting at a bar in a New Yorker cartoon: one turns to the other and says with bemusement, “Did you know we was gay?”

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A long and fruitful career as a writer began in 1960 with the publication of Sallie Bingham's novel, After Such Knowledge. This was followed by 15 collections of short stories in addition to novels, memoirs and plays, as well as the 2020 biography The Silver Swan: In Search of Doris Duke.

Her latest book, Taken by the Shawnee, is a work of historical fiction published by Turtle Point Press in June of 2024. Her previous memoir, Little Brother, was published by Sarabande Books in 2022. Her short story, "What I Learned From Fat Annie" won the Thomas Wolfe Fiction Prize in 2023 and the story "How Daddy Lost His Ear," from her forthcoming short story collection How Daddy Lost His Ear and Other Stories (September 23, 2025), received second prize in the 2023 Sean O’Faolain Short Story Competition.

She is an active and involved feminist, working for women’s empowerment, who founded the Kentucky Foundation for Women, which gives grants to Kentucky artists and writers who are feminists, The Sallie Bingham Center for Women's History and Culture at Duke University, and the Women’s Project and Productions in New York City. She lives in Santa Fe, New Mexico.

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  1. Tres Hunter Schnell says

    August 28th, 2024 at 10:28 am

    Well Sallie, As an activist lesbian, I have a life-long herstory of working for civil rights and human rights in New Mexico. As an organizer of 2003 legislative effort to pass An Act Relating to Human Rights, the LGBT population was included as a protected class in the New Mexico. With the federal right to marry, we have gained so much. Although, there is clearly a backlash of efforts to undo much of this progress, the march continues. I am conflicted about the “gay rodeo” because of the treatment of animals and struggle to feel this practice as progress. As a lifetime vegetarian and animal rights supporter, I feel sad for the fear and potential abuse suffered at the hands of my community. Thank you for the opportunity to comment.

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